Set Your LYSL Intention: Sometimes, when people talk about singleness, they make it sound like a disease to get over, and to get over fast. Right?! (I hate that. It’s so not true!) By the end of this lesson, you’ll get pen to paper with all those frustrations and you’ll have a safe space where you can open up to yourself about how you truly feel about being single. Then we’ll get down to business as you set your intention for how you’re going to grow in these next 4 weeks.
What God Says About Marriage: I’ll drill down into 2 big questions to kick us off, and then REMIND YOU with some tough-love of your worth as we dig into Scripture’s view of marriage. Oh—and if you’ve ever struggled with the “until God is my ONLY desire, He won’t give me marriage,” this one’s for you … because I’ve lived that, and wrestled with Scripture to find truth about that topic.
Am I Going to Be Single Forever? If marriage IS part of God’s original design, how come some people never get married? <– Um, hi. You’ve wondered that before, yeah? In this lesson, we unpack the “gift of singleness,” as our friend Paul defines it. You’ll face this fear head-on (maybe for the first time!), so you can hold it up to the truth of His promises.
The #1 Question That Changes Everything (Plus, 7 Promises to Lock in On in the Waiting): In this lesson, I’ll unveil the big pivoting question that unlocked things for me completely — truly helping me love my time while I was single, wait for God’s blessings with patience and contentment, and grow closer to Him. This one is a GAME changer. I can’t wait to share this gold-mine of a question with you!
How to Learn to Love this Season: In this section, you’ll get practical steps on how you can soak in this season like it’s the best thing that’s happened to you—designing a life that you love. We’ll dive into 3 reasons to love this season well, a big (and I mean BIG!) workbook exercise on gratitude, and so much more.
The Marriage Box Exercise: In this part of the curriculum, we’ll talk about how to live in the moment WHILE patiently anticipating what a good gift of marriage could look like in our life. This is one of the most-beloved exercises in LYSL, and I’ll show you how to get started!
How to Make a Single Life Bucket List: Okay, so we’re being present in this season, right? Get your pencils out: Together we’ll come up with tangible, actionable things that you can do as a single woman to truly start living this season to the full. This is a season for dreaming, and we’re about to dream BIG! (p.s. Oh, and ever thought “but if I go tackle those dreams, I’ll miss being in the right place to meet my future mate!” Uh, yeah. Been there. And I’ve got something to say about it if you’ve worried that too!).
7 Community Building Techniques: We’re created in the image of an intensely relational God, and when we fully embrace that, we see more of Him! This season is the perfect time to invest deeply in our communities, and that’s what we’re talking about in this lesson. Here, you’ll get VERY practical tips and ideas for how to make new friendships and grow deeper in the friendships you already have. (Oh, and if your community is feeling strained these days because your friends are all getting married and having babies, I have some ideas specifically for you, friend! )
How to Grow Closer to God in this Season: When we wrestle with singleness, our brains naturally veer towards thinking that following the rules might help us “earn” a husband. Here, I’m straight-up challenging that lie. You’ll re-frame a lot of beliefs you *may* be buying into that are—in fact—counter to the Gospel to get you OUT of believing the enemy’s lies about you and your worth and help you get closer to the God that LOVES you!
How to Make this a Season of Becoming: This season while we’re single is not just a season we want to enjoy, it’s a season we want to USE to help us step into the truest, brightest versions of ourselves — both for our own sake and because that’s the very best thing we could do for our future relationships. So in this lesson, we’re talking through some of the things we might want to work out in ourselves while we have the chance. The goal is *not* perfection or earning—instead, we’re asking for wisdom and setting out a plan to help us start to grow.
“Why am I Still Single?”: Here, we’ll talk about past relationships, our story, and how we got to where we are today, so we can gently assess what the TRUE answers are about why we’re still single. (Hint: It’s NOT because you’re unlovable, and I’ll remind you of that 100 times!) In this section, we’re going to take off a lot of the shame and guilt so many of us carry because of our past relationship failures, and we’re going to learn from what’s happened in our past so we can take steps forward into an even better future.
Making a Must-Have List: Armed with feedback from the previous lesson, let’s talk about that dream man. What kind of man is he? What are his best qualities? How would he spend his time? What does his life look like? Then, we’ll flip the script and hold the mirror up to ourselves: Do we exhibit those qualities we’re looking for? I know, it can be scary. It also is an excellent way to grow into the kind of woman that we’re proud to be (who also happens to be the kind of person that the kind of person we want to date wants to date! — did you follow me there? Wink.) Let’s hold ourselves to high-standards and step bravely into a journey of growth and refinement, ok?
How to Learn to Love Yourself + 18 Truths God Says About You:We can’t completely silence our inner critic, and probably never well. But do you know what? We sure can lean into the words our Father speaks over us instead. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to call out that inner critic that’s stealing your joy and confidence, so you can begin holding every thought captive and stepping more fully into God’s truth.
How to Know if You Should Be Dating: Curl up with a glass of wine or a mocktail—it’s girl talk time! In fact, from what it means to put yourself out there to what qualities you *should* look for in a guy, we’re diving in. We can love our single season, but dating? It can be one of the most confusing, hard parts about being single. The Bible’s not exactly a handbook on dating, so let’s talk about what His word DOES say about healthy relationships and connecting with others.
What Kind of Guy Should You Look For? If do feel ready to date, let’s keep that conversation going! In this section, we’re going to pull that list of qualities we’re looking for back out and work through them together. In this section you’ll find out (once and for all!) if you have high standards or if you are just too darn picky. And if you are too picky, I’ll help you figure out how to open up your mind and heart to some other (wonderfully surprising!) possibilities. (Also, I may or may not make some Aziz Anzari references here. Sorry not sorry—he has a good point to make!).
Where to Find Good Guys to Date: Glossy mag style, we’ll be kicking this off with a quiz! In this section we’ll help you figure out how to find the kind of men you’re looking for (and we’ll help you figure out if you’re doing all the right things or might need to make a change to find him!) Even if you’re in a tiny town or HATE the idea of online dating, we’ll do some thinking outside the box here—and as an extra bonus, getting out of our comfort zone not only helps us meet great guys, this can be a game-changer for enjoying our single lives too!
How to Get Asked on a Date: This is the longest video in the whole program, and I’m not mad about it one bit! From how to flirt, how to take yourself *out* of the friendzone, conversation tips, who’s in charge of pursuing who, and how to go about all of this with the RIGHT heart posture, I’ll talk you through the steps I’ve coached thousands of other Godly women through.
Set a Next Steps Action Plan: Now, let’s talk about how to leverage all you’ve learned and created during the program to get the Lord’s view of singleness, love, and relationships first in your mind’s eye. We can trust Him—so how will we live in the waiting? Let’s recap what we’ve learned, so you can curate even MORE of a life you love during this season. THAT’s the golden ticket, right there!
You may be single, but does it sometimes feel like your sex-drive didn’t get the memo? In this never-before-seen bonus video, we’re having a super honest, shame-free conversation about how we should handle our sexuality as single women. We’re talking about where the line is, what’s okay and what’s not, if we should be waiting to have sex until marriage, and if so, what to do with our sex drive until then. Last (but certainly not least!) we’re going to have an honest talk about masturbation. Shame-free. Promise!
More real talk—you ready?
I’m bringing in my own husband Carl for this one, because between the two of us, we dealt with a LOT of family and friend questions during our single years. All it takes is one Christmas family gathering to want to wear a sign around your neck that says “don’t ask me about my dating life,” right?
In this video, we’re unpacking how to answer the “are you dating” question, how to have patience with parents through these conversations, how to protect our hearts in the midst of those questions, how to graciously answer with truth, and beyond.
As single women, one of the hardest things is when it feels like your friends are moving on—dating, getting married, having kids.
This bonus video will take you by the hand and walk you through 9 perspectives that will help you maintain and strengthen the beautiful friendships you’ve cultivated as your best friends are going through seasons that look different from yours.
You’ll learn how to put yourself in her shoes, how to relate to the transitions friends are going through, and how to be honest and communicate with them during these times.
In this bonus video, you’ll meet my amazing friend Brianna Glenn. Bri is 36, she’s single, and she lives more vibrantly than anyone I know. Brianna is a world traveler, a small business owner, has an amazing group of best friends, and loves God with her whole heart and her whole life.
In this video, Brianna teaches us:
Bri lives a full, vibrant, joyful, adventurous, Christ-focused life, and she shows us how we can too. I can’t WAIT for you to meet her!
What do you do when you have a heart for motherhood … but that’s not exactly something that’s in the cards right now?
In this video, I’m bringing on yet another real-life friend, so you can get another perspective on what it’s like to deal with a desire to be a mom (even more than wanting to be married at times!) when you don’t exactly go on a lot of dates. My dear friend KayLynn shows us how sometimes God’s best plans for our lives don’t happen in the order we might have imagined, and how beautiful that can be. Motherhood isn’t out of reach for you. I can’t wait to share her story with you!
Have you ever asked these questions?
– How do I put myself out there without coming on too strong or appearing desperate?
– Dating is so intimidating to me, there’s so much pressure! How can I have more peace and confidence in it?
– I keep getting my hopes up about relationships, and they keep not working out. How do I keep myself from getting crushed so often?
– What does it look like to guard your heart in a relationship?
– How soon am I supposed to know if this person is my husband?
– How do I figure out if this is the guy for me?
I promise you’re not the only one. My solution and answer to these questions? The Dating A-Z. I cannot wait to tell you all about it!
This course far exceeded my expectations. I thought it was just going to be tips about living your single life and it wasn't. It was so much deeper. It was about finding myself, healing, God, grace, freedom and much more! — Maria
The course is the sermon on singleness you’ve always wanted but have never found... helpful, applicable, relatable, and actually enjoyable. It’s so worth your time and money.” - Shelby
Through this course I learned that I do not have to wait. This is my life RIGHT NOW! and that is so exciting. I am not going to meet my husband sulking in my room — I wouldn't want to meet him that way! I want to meet him living my passions and chasing God and living my life so fully. I learned that I do not have to wait to have a ring on my finger to become the woman I want to be! — Claire
“Signing up for this course isn’t a sign of defeat. Rather, it strengthens you, pushes you to grow in ways you never thought possible, and causes you to reflect on who you are now and where you’d like to be. I’d make the decision to sign up again a thousand times over.” - Kara
“Stephanie!! Thank YOU. I wish I could hug you a million times over. You have no idea what LYSL did for me.
When I signed up, I didn’t want anyone to know because it felt like a weak move to ‘need’ a course for this. But I’m telling you what — now I want to shout it from the rooftops. These are like minded gals with the same thoughts, feelings, fears, and desires. I bit the bullet and did it, and I’m telling you, it changed my season drastically. I know it might feel pricey to some people, but man, I can promise, it’s so worth it.
Just about a year later, I am newly dating the most amazing guy … but I don’t for a second wish he had come into my life any sooner. Last year was the best year of my life as far as finding purpose and living fully and I credit so much of that to you. I mean it! Thank you.'”
“This is not just another “help for singles” article, or self-help philosophy, or list of shallow, ‘churchy’ advice! This course will help you dig deep into yourself — to determine and define who you are and to get closer to the God who adores you. If you need fresh perspective, some direction, and just need to feel loved and understood, SIGN UP! It’s like a girls’ day, a spa party for your spirit, and a Bible study all rolled into one. Girl, trust me, you NEED this!”
“Because of this course, I feel a million times more confident in my single life, a million times more confident on the prospect of dating, and a million times more loving towards myself and this season of life I am in!”
“This course made me so excited to live in the here and now, and it boosted my confidence and self-esteem. I feel more empowered and confident in putting myself out there, but more than that I feel overwhelmed by God’s love and all that He is doing for me right now. I found so much joy and peace through this course. It absolutely exceeded my expectations”
“This course has been the best decision I’ve made all year! I just can’t say thank you enough for helping me see the beauty in this period of life! You’re amazing!”
“This course gets into every detail about being single, dating, past relationships, sex, it doesn’t leave anything out!”
“Since taking this course I can feel myself laughing harder and smiling more. Life just feels so much richer than it used to!”
“Stephanie teaches you how to live your life so that you won’t regret anything ten years from now, and she allows you to see the whole picture in a way that is almost impossible without someone guiding you through it all.”
“I cannot express how valuable this course has already been in my own life! It has changed the way I view myself, and has also given me an even greater love for the Lord!”
“I feel like Stephanie gave me permission to finally live the life I’ve been dreaming about.”
“Because of this course I started taking action on my dreams! I got a puppy, I started exercising, and I am signing up for a real estate exam to get my license!”
My 30-Day Love Your Single Life Promise:
If you’re on the fence, I get it. It’s so hard to invest in ourselves, and if we’re going to make an investment, we want to know that it’s going to work! And so that’s why I offer my 30-day Love Your Single Life Promise. Within 30-days, if you finish the course and feel like it wasn’t helpful, I will refund you 100%.
That way you can sign up and take advantage of all of the possibilities available to you without any of the risk.
(Check out our FAQs and Terms & Conditions to read the full refund policy. There are a few things we ask you to do if you ever do need to request a refund!)
Great question! I think online courses are still a bit of an unfamiliar thing. So let’s break down what it actually looks like to join us. 🙂
When you sign up for the course, you’ll make a username and password. That information allows you to log in to a private website where you can see the videos and workbook that make up the content of the course.
The course goes for four weeks, and on Monday of each of those four weeks, you’ll be able to see a new set of videos. They’re pre-recorded, so you don’t need to be a certain place at a certain time. You can watch them on your own time. If you fall behind in those four weeks, that’s totally fine. You can catch up whenever you like. The videos don’t expire. You’ll have access to them indefinitely. So you can take however long you want to go through them, and once you’re through them, you can always go back and watch them again.
So how it works is that you watch the video (they range in length. Some are 10 minutes, the bonus videos tend to be longer), and then once you’re done watching the video, you head to your workbook (which you’ll get when you sign up!) and you’ll answer some questions there.
That way you’re not just learning, you’re putting it into practice in your life!
The third component of the course is that you get access to a private Facebook group. That group is just for girls who are going through the course, and it’s amazing because it’s this beautiful community where everyone’s in a similar stage of life all over the country, where they get to pray together, encourage each other, ask each other questions, and cheer each other on. That Facebook group is just so great because everyone gets to find out that they’re not alone in what they’re going through!
So the course really is a collection of videos, and a workbook for you to fill out, and a private Facebook group. You watch the videos, reflect on what you just learned and do some exercises in the workbook so you can actually put what you learned into practice. And you get to talk through it with a wonderfully supportive community in the Facebook group!
Again, I know that an online course is a new concept to lots of us. So I hope that makes it a bit easier to understand!
Love, I’m so happy this topic resonates with you so much! It’s one of my very favorite things to talk to women about.
So, unfortunately I don’t offer discounts, or do any scholarships, and that’s for two reasons.
The first is that I’ve done everything I can to offer this course at a rock-bottom price. Comparable courses and programs are usually offered for upwards of 1,000 dollars! And so because I want as many of us to be able to participate as possible, I’ve tried to keep the cost super low.
The other reason I don’t do discounts or scholarships is because I’ve noticed that there’s such a strong correlation between what we put into something and what we get out of it. When we’ve invested our hard-earned money into something, we’re more likely to give it the best of our time, and our effort. You really will get so much more out of this course because you have some skin in the game. It’s crazy how it works that way. But it’s really true!
So I know money is such a tough thing for us. Trust me, budgets are such a thing in the Wilson house. And so if you’re not able to join us this time around, I totally understand. Hopefully you can join us sometime in the future!
So the way this course works is that it’s four weeks long, and there are four lessons each week.
Each lesson is comprised of a video (10-20 minutes long), and some reflection questions. The reflection questions are my favorite part because they’re where we put what we learned into practice. They’re so important.
And so I’d guess that each lesson will take you about 45 minutes.
So overall, the course will take you three hours a week for four weeks in a row.
Now, I know that as you read that, you may be thinking, “Steph, I’m in the midst of a super busy season. I just don’t think I have time to invest in this right now!”
I totally hear you. In fact, I had that same conversation with an awesome med student who was thinking of joining us for the course last time.
She knew she wanted to take the course but she was beyond busy. She just wasn’t sure it was the right time. We talked through it together and in the end, she decided to join us and here’s why.
She reasoned, “If I’m waiting until I’m done with med school to invest in my single and dating life, well, then I’m going to be waiting years. And then I’ll be starting a new job, and then, and then, and then. There will never be a time where this is convenient, and so I don’t want to wait! I don’t want to wake up years from now still feeling stuck in this area of my life. I want to start seeing breakthrough now, even if I do have to take the course at a slower pace.” I love that! It reminds me of one of my favorite quotes, “A year from now you will wish you had started today!”
But of course, that doesn’t change the fact that you’re really busy. If this is you, know that once you sign up for the course you will have access to the material for as long as the course exists (which we hope is years and years to come!).
So if you fall behind, or are traveling, or come across a busy season, that’s totally okay. You can go at your own pace. The content isn’t going anywhere. (And you can come back and re-watch the videos any time you need a refresher!)
That’s totally up to you! If you’re loving your single life, feeling totally confident in your dating life, and feel like you’re doing great on your own, that’s awesome! I love that!
But if you…
Then this course has your name all over it. You can totally try to figure this stuff out on your own. But life is so much better when we do it together, right? You have this resource available to you. Why not use it?
That’s a great question! The last thing I’d ever want you to do is to invest in something that’s not going to really be helpful and beneficial to your life.
So I’ll tell you two things:
First: The principles, ideas, and lessons I’m going to teach you in this course have been backed up and verified by experts in the different fields we’re diving into. Not only that, but I have personally used and benefited from each lesson I’m going to share with you, and it led to a single life I absolutely loved. I’ve also seen these principles and lessons be beneficial in the lives of countless women — friends, and loved ones, but also in the lives of my readers. These are lessons that have helped thousands of my readers over the last four years. They’re tried and true. You can count on it. 🙂
Second: That being said, whether this works in your life is really up to you. You will get as much out of this course as you put into it. But I know that if you put your heart, your time, and your effort into this course, and then you actually put the things into practice that we talk about here, you will see both your single and your dating life start to transform.
Absolutely. Love, more than anything, I want this to be helpful and beneficial to your life. And so if you make it through the course and feel like this wasn’t helpful, I would be more than happy to give you your money back (Not happy, because I’ll be sad that it wasn’t helpful… you know what I mean!)
But I do have three things I’ll ask you to do before I give you a refund:
Great question! I don’t currently have plans for when I’ll open the course up again. So if you’re interested in taking the course, I’d sign up now just to make sure you’re able to!
That’s a great question!
First of all, I applaud you for not being on Facebook. I love seeing women make the decision that’s best for them when it comes to social media.
Second of all, unfortunately, the community aspect of the course really is going to require a Facebook account. And so if you don’t have one, you have a few options.
What you decide is entirely up to you! I want what’s best for you love. 🙂
This is actually one of the questions we’re asked the very most, and I totally get it.
I joined a small group not long ago, and my first question was, “Am I going to be the oldest person in it?” We want to fit in with the communities we join, and especially for a topic that seems to accumulate shame with each passing year, we want to know — is everyone going to be younger than me?
This course was designed for women in their 20’s to mid-30’s, and the women who have joined us for each round of the course have ranged in age from 19-38. But, those are just the ages we designed the course for. If you are in your 40s, 50s, or even 60s, and you want to join us, we’d love to have you!
The only age requirement we have is that you must be AT LEAST 18 years old to join us. If you’re 18 or older, we would love to have you!
Now, if you are feeling like you’re on the older end of the spectrum, you might be thinking, “Listen, the last thing I need is someone else making me feel old.” And it can also be really hard to hear people who are younger than you say things like, “I’m running out of time!”
But here’s what I will say — the amount of pressure we feel to get married, the depth of our desire to get married, and the amount of shame we sometimes feel for not being married doesn’t actually correlate with age as much as we think it does. I have met amazing 40-year-old women who aren’t feeling any pressure to get married, and I’ve met 20-year-olds who are being crushed by the pressure.
We all come from different backgrounds, different families, and different types of pressure for when and how these things are supposed to happen in our lives. And here’s why I love that: Because 1. We’re not alone. No matter how old you are, you’re not alone in feeling the things you’re feeling. And that’s what this community is here to show you. 2. We all bring different perspectives, and so we can each offer wisdom and encouragement that the other women in the course need.
So — all of that to say, as long as you’re over 18, you are welcome! We have a wide range of ages in the course, and so you probably won’t be the youngest, and you probably won’t be the oldest either.
But, my challenge for you would be to not let age stop you. No matter how old we are, so many of us struggle with the things we talk about in this course, and that no matter how old we are, we don’t have to navigate them alone.
No! Of course not! Anyone is welcome! However, I will tell you that we do talk about Jesus, about prayer, and about the Bible throughout the course. So if that’s something you’re comfortable with, go ahead and join us! But if you’re looking for something that’s more faith-neutral, this might not be the best fit.
Nope. Sorry gentleman! This one is for girls only.
You’ll have access for as long as I offer the course! (So hopefully for years and years to come!)
The course will begin the Monday after registration closes! (Sept 17th!) However, the course is self-paced and so if you’re out of town that week (or one of the weeks during the course), or if you fall behind, or are working with a crazy schedule, no worries at all! You’ll have access to the material indefinitely. So you can totally work at your own pace!
We understand that life circumstances can change incredibly quickly, and so if you sign up but need to back out at the last minute, we totally understand. You have until the Monday that the course begins to back out for a full refund. But we’re unable to accept returns after the course begins.
If you complete the course and aren’t satisfied with it, however, that’s another story. Check out the FAQ with the title: “Okay, but if it really doesn’t work for me, can I get a refund?” to see our Satisfaction Guarantee.
This course is meant for individuals to go through on their own. However if you have friends who are also signing up, you could keep pace together and discuss what you learn at the end of each section!
Each login is meant to be for one person only. I kindly and humbly ask that you don’t share the content of this course — the videos, the worksheets, the information — with anyone who hasn’t themselves purchased the course.
Real talk for a second? My team and I pour so much time and energy into this course, and we love doing it! This is really so close to our hearts, so much of what we believe we’re meant to do in the world. And when copies are made, or login information is passed around (which is actually stealing) it really hurts our ability to continue.
If we find out that more than one person is using an account, we will have to revoke your access to the course — which of course we do NOT want to have to do! So we thank you so much in advance for your consideration and respect!
This course is designed to be an encouraging resource and a step in a healthy, positive direction, but it is not a replacement for professional in-person mentorship, counseling, or therapy.
I am not a licensed therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, or counselor. If you feel you are in need of help please reach out to a professional or call a help hotline in your area to help you through your time of need. If it feels urgent call your local law enforcement for immediate assistance.
I’m happy to answer any questions you can think of! Just send me an email! Hello@StephanieMayWilson.com. 🙂
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